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Tired of Change? Take Control

Life is full of changes.  After all without change, there is no growth, no new lessons and no new experiences.  Life would be a little too boring.  Really?  There are times when we just want change to stop.  Just to be able to press the pause button so that we can think.  Unfortunately that’s not the world that we live in.  That is not how things are.  What should we do when we have had enough with the changing environment?  What if the changes that are taking place are not what we want?  What if the changes that are taking place are just downright wrong or bad?

How do we gain perspective in order to put things in its right perspective?  What is our anchor?  What is your North Star?

It all boils down to getting back to basics.  It involves these 5 areas:

 1.  Remember your values.  Your values is your compass.  It is your North Star.  Remember what you believe in.  Reflect and discover what your values are if you are unsure.  Once you are clear on what your values are, then it is a basis for your next steps and decisions.

2.  Rearrange your prioritises based on your values.  Once you have identified your core values, reassess what you are doing now and ask yourself

  • “Does it align with my values?”
  • “What do I need to change or modify in order for what I do aligns with my values?” .
  • “What do I need to stop doing?”
  • “What do I need to start doing in order for me to live out my values?”
  • “What should I now prioritise first?”
  • “How should I prioritise?”
  • “What structures do I need to put in place in order to achieve my new prioritises?”


3.  Accept the consequences of reprioritising.  Be prepared for the consequences of the changes that you will be making as a result of this exercise.  It might not be easy to make certain transitions or decisions.  Once you are certain, you will need to be prepared of the short term consequences.  However, be focus on the long term gains that you are making as a result of the change.  Always remember and keep your eye on the goals that you want to achieve.

4.  Step out and take control.  I love Nike’s slogan of Just DO It.  It really is just do it.  Plans are great on paper, and until it is executed, it means very little.  Just step out and act.  Just know that it is normal and you are not the only one who has ever felt fear, anxiety and uncertainty of the unknown.  Remember, you are not alone and if you need help there are various forums where you can get mentorships, coaching and other forms of assistance.

5.  Be thankful and grateful for the opportunity to remember.  To help put things into perspective is to have a thankful and grateful approach to life.  Each stepping stone, each fork on the road has a purpose.  See the big picture through the eyes of gratefulness.  It is far better than through the lens of negativity.


You are in control of your change.  There are times that circumstances will force changes upon you.  When and if change takes place, know that you are still in control of how you react and what you do with the opportunity.

We all get tired of change.  However, it is also the perfect opportunity to take stock, reassess your values, reprioritise and take steps to control the outcomes which aligns to your values.

3 common traits of focus and intentional living

In today’s ultra busy world, there are so many things that capture our attention. We are being pulled from every direction and somehow we must cater and adopt them all. None us can walk down a street without something or someone calling for our attention. In the workplace, we are faced with multitude of priorities and goals from every point of contact. Managers will give employees goals, the organisation will have top down strategies and goals, peers will have individual goals and each of us will have our own. When we are at home, there are also expectations to be met. How can anyone manage with all that is demanded.
There are many methods to achieve a balance in our approach to handle the demands. We have prioritisation methods, mindfulness techniques, roles models and sage advice from people who have achieved success. The key question is what would work for you? We can learn from every tips and tricks in the book. The real test is when the rubber hits the road. How are we living it out? How are we balancing all the different demands and priorities?

In my coaching experience, there are few simple questions to get the process going.

 1. The starting block is to ask yourself, “What are the most important things in your life?”.  

 2. List them all down and I mean all.  

 3. Rank them in terms of importance from 1 to n.    

 4. Ask yourself, “Is that how I am spending my time and focus?”.

 5. Based on how your spending your time and focus, what is the ranking on that list?

 6. What would you like to change ?

In most cases, the list that we first come up with is the “ideal” list. The wish list in our minds based on preconceived desired outcome. Reality however will show that there is gap. The biggest gap usually centers around people that we love and the demands of work. How can we bridge that gap? How can we focus on the things that we should ?  

There are 3 common traits :

 1. Focus on the non-negotiable. Hone into the areas of your life that no matter what cannot be set aside. My take is that there should not more than 3 non-negotiables. It is hard to truly focus if we have more than that.

 2. Protect that turf. Set aside time and energy to do them. Protect that time and unless it’s life and death, it should not be interrupted.  

 3. Be present for each activity and contact point. It is how we spend the time that matters. When you are engaging in a conversation, be present and attentive. We have all seen people around the same dinner table but no one is talking to one another. Being present takes focus, attention and it is intentional.

I have witness a number of people who are extremely focus and intentional in how they live out their lives. They have figured out how to focus on the 3 biggest aspects of life : work, family and service. It is not by luck or chance that differentiates them. It is solely by them asking the hard questions, resolving to live out intentionally and focusing on the heart of the matter daily.

Are you living a life that is focus and intentional? Our significance in this life is not measured by how busy we are but by the impact we have. The only sure way of making an impact is to be focus and intentional with our time, energy and people.