Working with a Manager with Credibility Issues?

Respect and credibility are 2 critical hidden badges that each of us carry in our workplace.  Both are earned through actions and accomplishments along with how we conduct ourselves.  What happens when you work for a manager who is well-regarded and has high credibility?  For those of us who have had such experience will know that it is a positive experience.  Conversely, working for or with a manager who has credibility issues is hard.  It is hard because it is fighting an invisible barrier and it makes working with people and teams more challenging.

What can you do if you are in that situation?  Here are some tips for you:

  1. Focus on your credibility. Focus on building your credibility.  Deliver on your commitments and be a professional.  You are responsible for building your own credibility.  Credibility is built over time through hard work, commitment and accomplishments.  Therefore, you are in control of what you are to achieve.
  2. Keep your words and actions professional. Be a professional.  Don’t succumb to gossiping or bad mouthing your manager or peers.  Be self-aware and ensure that you focus on your role, responsibilities and results.
  3. Seek out mentors to help you grow. Seeking out mentors will ensure that you have an objective outside to give you perspective and help your developmental needs.  Your focus should be how can you continually grow and learn to be better at your role and enhance your skills.  All these actions will help you to build your credibility.
  4. Stay optimistic and positive. One of the typical symptom that will appear in the group is low team morale.  Be the difference.  Be the light that shines optimism and keep working on what you are responsible for.
  5. Help your manager. You would expect your manager to help you but in this situation, helping your manager to be successful might be needed.  When the team is successful, it builds credibility for all.  It is a symbiotic relationship, everyone needs everyone to play their part for the whole to be successful.

Observing from a distance President Trump makes me feel sorry for the people that are working for him.  How hard it must be to do their job when they serve a leader who has very little credibility.  However, we don’t have to look too far to see in our workplaces, that we have managers who also suffer from credibility issues.  Instead of being helpless or raise our hands in defeat, let’s look for ways that we can still be successful.

What makes personal credibility important?

  • Power of Influence: Influence is a powerful skill to possess.  A person of influence can achieve a great deal.  Negotiations proceed smoother.  Convincing another person to participate or taken up task requires less time and effort.
  • Trustworthiness: When a person has credibility, that person is perceived as trustworthy.  For most, a great character to have or perceive to have is integrity.  When there is trust, there is mutual respect and working together is easy.  When that breaks down, it is hard as there is too much uncertainty and second guessing.  Focusing on what you need to do and watching your back make for work extremely challenging.
  • Authority: Direct or indirect authority makes working with people easier.  When you have authority whether it is in a subject matter or as part of the hierarchy, you are able to in some situation control the situation.

When you are in that situation, you will need to decide what is the path that you are going to take.  Are you going to make the situation better or make it worse?

Ask yourself:

  • What is my attitude towards my manager?
  • What is my attitude towards the work that I do?
  • What am I saying or doing that could contribute to making the situation better or worse?
  • How can I stay focus on the job?
  • What can I do towards developing my credibility? Am I delivering the outcomes or results that I have committed to?
  • How am I taking accountability for my actions or am I blaming others?
  • What are my choices?
  • What do I want to achieve or learn from this?

Working in any organisation, there will be a mix bag of managers and colleagues.  Most of the time we can’t choose who the people we work for and with will be.  The ability to manage and work with people will be key to your success.  You will need to decide what part you will play on top of your official role.  Will you be the catalyst of positive change or not?

Admittedly, there are times, no amount of positivity will help a situation, it is then, the need to find another opportunity.  But before then, focus on the learnings and skills building that this journey will take you through.


5 common perspectives that rob you of your happiness

Happy person

Have you ever noticed how some people are simply happy and calm through any situation while some are not?  Which camp do you fall into?  Are you the happy camper or the “I-am-happy-when-i-am-miserable” category?

I like to think that all of us want to be happy and content.  Truth be told we can’t be happy all the time but at least most of the time. Have you wondered why some people are just happy?  In fact, they rather annoy you with their happiness.  What makes a person happy?  What does happiness consist off?  What will contribute to happiness?  What does not contribute to happiness?

When it comes down to it, happiness is a personal choice.  It is made up of sub-conscious decisions that we make.  Some might call it personality or attitude.  Small decisions or practices over time makes a habit.  Habit over time becomes an automatic action.  How we choose to respond to a situation will determine the outcome of either finding a silver lining or just more misery.

Let’s explore the top 5 areas that robs you of your happiness.

  1. Being upset about the small stuff: Every little thing that does not go your way gets you all upset.  When things or people don’t go your way, it upsets you.  It takes you days or even weeks to get over it.  Imagine the amount of time that you have wasted being upset instead of being happy.  Every time you are upset simply means that you are stealing your “happy time”.  We all know the importance of time, hence why would you waste time to be upset?  Don’t sweat the small stuff.  It is true.  Don’t waste your time and energy.  Decide to move forward and choose to find the silver lining and be thankful.  Be thankful and grateful is the first step in being happy.  Some days, I have just thankful to be physically fit and healthy.  When there is nothing else to be grateful for, there is still your life to be thankful for.  What is the alternative?
  2. Caring what other people think of you: The most dangerous happiness stealer is the expectations of others. It is important that we care about and for people.  It is however not important what other people think of you.  Why is that?  In the end, the only person that must meet up to your expectation is you.  You cannot truly know what someone else is thinking much less what they are thinking about you.  Humans are in general self-absorb which generally means that we think more about ourselves than others.  Therefore, when someone is thinking or talking about you, it usually means that they are avoiding making the improvements on themselves.  When one finger points at another, remember there are three other fingers pointing back at you.
  3. Fear of stepping out: Fear stops you from doing what you should do.  Fear stops you from feeling happy.  There are some people who are afraid of being happy as they fear that something bad will happen.  They feel that they are not entitled to happiness.  That is clearly not true.  Each of us has the power to choose to be happy.  Don’t let fear rob you from your happiness.
  4. Control: The need to control people and situations are around you will just drive you mental.  If you can’t even control yourself, what hope is there to control others.  Let go of the need to control and you will find that just letting people be who they are, accepting people for their beauty and flaws will go so much better.
  5. Perfection: Perfection does not exist.  Waiting for perfect before you can be happy is a sure way to be unhappy.  Perfection robs you of all forms of happiness.  How can someone be happy living in this imperfect world?  Well, it’s simple, just accept that perfect does not exist.  Take everything and everyone that comes by your way as a blessing and a journey of discovery and growth.

Happiness exist in how you respond with thankfulness and gratitude.  At the heart of happiness is gratitude.  When we are thankful, you will appreciate every thing small or big as a gift.  We take so many things for granted.  For example, clean water, how precious is that?  Are we thankful that we have clean water to drink?  There are millions of people who do not have clean water.  What about the air we breathe?  Just being able to breathe is to be grateful for.  Don’t always focus on the “big” things and believe that those will bring about happiness.  It is the small stuff that without it, the big stuff won’t exist.  I have a gratitude journal and some days I don’t have anything to write until I realise that just being healthy is a point to be thankful for.

The 3 simple keys to happiness:

  • Be Grateful and Not take people or things for granted.
  • Be who God made you to be and NOT someone else.
  • Be a giver and not a taker.

Happiness is a choice and a decision that we make.  Don’t allow the “happiness robbers” to steal your happiness without a fight.

Are you Teachable?

When you were young, your mind is simply absorbing information like a sponge.  You are learning all sorts of things and it comes from actual practice or doing to observing and listening.  A child learns from all mediums whether good or bad.  A child is teachable and the more teachable a child is, the more a child will learn.  When we become adults, and perceive that we know it all, we become set in our ways and not very teachable.  When that settles in, it is almost impossible to grow and mature.  People who struggle the most with change and adapting to different situations are often those who have lost the teachable mindset.  They are no longer open to learning or to be “taught” by others.

Are you teachable?  Are you open to learning and changing?  Are you willing to humble yourself to admit that you don’t know and need to learn?  What do you need to continue to be teachable?

There are 3 key ingredients to having a teachable mindset:

  1. Humility: To be humble, to admit that you need help, to change, to learn and to grow.  To acknowledge, that “I Don’t Know” is hard for some.  Those who are arrogant and prideful will find this first step extremely difficult and will probably justify away the “I don’t know”.  Have you met anyone who will not acknowledge their lack of knowledge?  Have you met anyone who will give excuses as to why they got it wrong or made a mistake?  When we do not humble ourselves, and acknowledge that we need to learn, we stunt the growth process and will eventually end up making a fool of ourselves.  We don’t have a look hard to find in the news today who we could put into this category.
  2. Growth mindset: A growth mindset is one where the learning never stops.  Learning is a continuous process and the journey never ends. Learning and innovating is as critical as the air we breathe.  Therefore the mind is always searching for new knowledge and is teachable.
  3. Seeking out assistance: Seek out people who can teach you, to learn from.  Seek out mentors, experts in a field.  Read and study.  Join groups or networks to learn from.  Do not be afraid to ask for help.  Having a teachable mindset requires that you seek out avenues to learn from.  Like-minded people will share your desire to learn, brainstorm and explore new options and solutions.

What are the signs that you are teachable?

  • Acknowledge mistakes: You will acknowledge and apologise for the mistake.  You will take ownership and make the necessary steps to ensure that you learn from it and hopefully not make it again.  You will learn from the mistake and make the adjustments.
  • Seek out knowledge: You will have a desire to learn and your reading habits is a good sign.  People who are perpetually learning are usually those who read ferociously.  Reading materials can range from any topic or subject.  The wider the range of reading materials, the great the breadth of knowledge.  You will have mentors, coaches, networks of learning groups and so on.  People learning from one another is a great source of knowledge and wisdom.
  • Take risk: Taking risk sounds like a strange sign but our greatest lessons in life comes from risk.  When we take the risk of embarking in a new area, we are putting ourselves in very uncomfortable situation.  It is in those situations, that we humble ourselves and learn.  Failures will occur but therein lies the greatest learnings.  Don’t be afraid of taking risk or of failing.  Read my blog on Fear Cycle.
  • Open to new ideas: You will listen to other people and are open to new ideas or thoughts.  You are willing to consider your ideas are not the only ideas that could be viable.  Open to challenging your assumptions and testing out other options.  Don’t be defensive when new ideas are being discussed.  Be open to listening to all the possibilities and the final solution might be even better than the first.  The number of conflicts that we can settle if only people would be open to the ideas of others and not be bound by just one way of getting things done.

Ask yourself:

  • What is my teachable meter?
  • When confronted, what is my initial reaction? Is it negative?  Is it open to learning?  What is my response?
  • How comfortable am I to acknowledge a mistake?
  • What is my greatest barrier to learning? Is it my pride?  Is it my stubbornness?
  • What circle of friends do I have? Do I allow people around me to challenge me?  Do I only want people to agree with me?
  • What is my response when I fail? What is my mindset with failure?

If you have taken the time to ask yourself some of the questions above, it’s a great start to knowing just where you are on the “teach-ability” meter.

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5 Characteristics of people who Fail at Failing

Has anyone NOT experienced failure?  It would be one uneventful life if you have not had the blessings of failure.  Where would we get those great moments to laugh or cry over if there were no failures in our life?  Where would our character development be found?  Of course, it is NOT pleasant when we are going through those moments where our failures can range from minor to epic.  It is unfortunately the way we learn and grown.

We learn not to make the same mistakes again.  We learn to try a new approach to solving a problem.  We learn that we are not define by the mistake or failure.  We learn that we are stronger and tougher than we thought before the failure and after the recovery.  We learn that one step away from fail is success.  There are many benefits of experiencing failure as part of growing and maturing if you can get up and learn from the failure.  There are however people who fail and fail to recover.  What differentiates those to who experience failure and comes out stronger vs. those who come out worse off?

I think that are 5 characteristics of people who fail and come out worse off and they are:

  1. Not having a goal in life. Sounds counterintuitive in a way as if you have goals and not meet them, then wouldn’t that we consider a fail?  Yes, if the goal in life was purely just achieving goals.  No, as life is not about maturing in character as we move towards achieving our goals.  Not having a goal is a sure way to fail as there is nothing that one is striving towards.  How can one be successful if you don’t know where you are going?  Set goals for yourself.  To help you with goals, check out my previous blog here.
  2. You are not teachable. You are not willing to learn and you are not willing to receive feedback.  You are inflexible and unwilling to accept help.  Having a teachable attitude will help you to learn from mistakes and ensure that you do not make the same mistake.  We are never too brilliant to not be able to learn more.
  3. A negative mindset. It is critical that we define failure in the right context.  Failure is not definite and not permanent.  Having a negative mindset will only hurt in the learning process as the perception is far worse than reality.  A negative mindset creates a perception that the failure is worse than it is and without hope that it will get better.  Hope is a critical ingredient is ensuring that we get back up again.  Change the perception of what failure is and change your mindset to see the silver lining behind it.
  4. No commitment. No or lack of commitment to see your goals through will result in giving up too early.  People who are successful are commitment to their vision and will persevere through enormous obstacles to see your goals come to fruition.  Commitment is fundamental in ensuring that we stay the course and learn from failure, improvise and continue moving forward.
  5. Waiting for perfection. Waiting for the perfect time, the perfect idea, the perfect opportunity and so on.  There is no perfection.  It is pointless to wait for perfection as it does not exist.  Waiting does not get you anywhere.  Waiting for perfection certainly will not get you anywhere.  The only way to know if your idea will work is to just do it.  Plan for it and then act on it.  Learn and improve and continue to just do it.

Don’t be afraid to fail as that is how we learn and mature.  Don’t allow failure to stop you from failing.  Take the risk of failing and have the right mindset and attitude of:

  1. Failure is a temporary setback in achieving your goals.
  2. Every mistake or failure is an opportunity to learn from and be better.
  3. Every negative situation and thought as a positive upside.
  4. You will develop muscles in perseverance, commitment, discipline and focus.
  5. Keep straining forward is the only way to move forward and not backwards or stagnant. Don’t let the setback make you negative or bitter.  Use it to keep you stronger.

Don’t allow your failures to stop you and prevent you from living life to the fullest.  Don’t let it stop you from taking risk in a business opportunity or as you move up the career ladder.


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Most Productive Day Ever!



Have you ever had one of those days where it was just the most productive day ever?  Everything that you wanted to do, you did.  Not only did you complete it but you were just brilliant.  It is like you are walking on cloud nice and nothing could go wrong that day.  Of course, you know that won’t last but you are certainly enjoying the day and how it makes you feel.

I have been wondering about that recently.  I have been wondering why those days are so sporadic.  I have days when the creative juices are just flowing and every word that comes out of my mouth was just wise beyond my age.  And then before I know it, I am back to earth feeling mortal again.  What happened to my super powers?  This got me to do some research to discover what is behind those productive days.  Various writers have viewed this topic from morning rituals, super charged mental attributes, great strength and perseverance, to lifestyle that breeds calmness to creativity.  In summary, I have discovered that there is no magic formula.  It all comes down to you and a variety of options that suits you.

Let me summarise what those possibilities would look like:

  1. You. You need to know you.  What do you need to know?  Here are some questions:
    • What is your working style?
    • What is the best time for you to do your most creative work? What is the best time for you to do the most challenging work?
    • Where do you get ideas from?
    • How are you feeling today?
    • What can you do to enhance that?
    • Where do you find inspiration?
    • Do you have any inspirational quotes that you remind yourself when the going gets tough?
    • What drives you?
    • What is your desired outcome?
  2. Lifestyle or Habits. There are some good and healthy lifestyle choices that each of us should make.  Research has proven that:
    • Exercise is critical in living a healthy life which gives you more energy and helps to destress.
    • Eating healthy and well will fuel your body correctly and you will feel the difference.
    • Rest and sleep are critical for our bodies and minds to repair, recover and rejuvenate.
  3. Relationships are what we are designed for. We need people to love and be love, to learn and be challenge, to grow and to mature.  People who are happy are generally people who have great relationships with people around them.  When you are happy or filled with joy, you tend to be in the right frame of mind to think, rationalize and innovate.
  4. Resourcefulness enables you to be creative in finding solutions to challenges. When you face a roadblock to productivity, resourcefulness will help you find ways around it.  Hitting your head against the roadblock is usually painful but getting around it usually just takes a more creative approach to the challenge.
  5. Fear Not will enable you to view possibilities. Being productive requires that you face those daunting days and still be productive despite it.  Eliminating worry and fear goes a long way to ensuring that you mind is not trapped in the fear cycle but is free to explore solutions.
  6. Just do it. I love this motto because to get through those ugly days, we just do it.  No need to grumble or complain, just press forward.

The key is to know and take advantage of those days.  Set the right expectations and work towards simple goals to achieve.  It is better to achieve goals no matter how simple, than to wait for the perfect day as that is just a waste of time.

PS:  Special for March, I am conducting a special free 30-min session to help you with any questions around coaching that you might have and how coaching could be the resource to help you have a purposeful year.  Just click here to start the journey.