Coaching is a journey and a process that will help you focus on your goals, uncover hidden barriers and action your way towards achieving your visions and goals. It is journey that will require you to challenge your assumptions, perceptions and broaden your solution sets.
For the month of March, I am giving you an opportunity to find out and discover what is coaching and whether coaching is the needed boast to help you discover and act upon your goals.
Why Am I doing this?
My goal for this 30-minute session is to answer questions you might have regarding coaching as well as to help you get a feel on what a coaching session will entail. Most of my clients are first timers and have very little idea what is coaching and what each sessions will look like. This is a great way to get your feel for it.
What do you need to do?
You will need to prepare some questions. You will need to have a goal in mind in terms of what is the outcome that you are expecting from this session and we will both work towards it.
What does it cost?
It will cost you 30 minutes of your time maybe a little more as you prepare. There is $0 and no obligation. If you should choose to engage in a coaching engagement, we can discuss it further.
How do we connect?
Technology is a beautiful tool and Skype is the answer. We will Skype either by Video or Audio. It can be conducted over the comforts of your home.
When can I start?
Just send me a note by clicking here and we can schedule a time that best suits us.
This is about the time of the year when new year resolutions have come to a halt or a distant memory. You may have started January with great gusto but now in February, those resolutions are either forgotten or just too hard and therefore ends in the “tried but failed” graveyard.
Let me highlight and remind you why goals are important:
- Goals help you to focus your energy and time. We do not have an endless supply of time or energy. Goals will help you to focus or prioritise how and what you will use your energy and time for. Goals will help you to make the right decision and trade-offs when confronted with multiple requests or tasks.
- Goals help you to persevere with hope. Sounds strange but if we set realistic expectations and goals, it is able to motivate us. Motivation and hope serves as fuel for perseverance. It is the reaching of a realistic but challenging goal that will drive you forward. The hope that reaching that goal will give you a reward will help you to persevere. The reward is up to you to define.
- Goals are character building. More than the achievement of the goal is the process by which it was achieved. More often than not, the process of struggling, striving, persevering and challenging yourself in achieving the goal builds character. We learn more about ourselves through the process as well as building muscles in areas like focus, commitment, dedication, perseverance and discipline.
- Goals ensure that you line up your potential. Potential cannot be realised if we don’t work at it. Potential can only be released when it is applied. Potential must be worked on. Goals will help you work on your potential as it requires application of your potential. When you are working at it, your skills and abilities are being developed. Potential with work will bring you accomplishments.
- Goals will drive you forward. Goals will drive you forward whilst being goal-less will cause you to drift. Drifting through life is one of the most wasteful use of your potential. Driving forward will ensure that you are taking accountability for your life. Goals that drive you forward will always give you significance.
The challenge with goals is that is can be scary and terrifying. It is terrifying because of the fear of failure. No one wants to fail at achieving a goal. Therefore in order to avoid failure, it is easier to not have goals. However, to fail at a goal does not equate to you being a failure. In fact, it simply means that you did not achieve the goal for whatever the reason. In the working out of the goal, the real outcome is lesson. What did you learn? What could you do differently? What needs to change? How could I overcome this barrier?
Goals will give you a purpose. A “why” am I doing this. Every person who you would consider as successful, would certainly have goals in their life. So don’t give up on having goals for yours. Make goals or continue in persevering and working on the goals that you have set.
How do you set goals? Ask yourself the following questions:
- What does a successful year look like to you?
- What areas of my life am I “fed-up” with that I want to change?
- What stops me from having goals?
- If I could do anything, what would that be?
- If there were no limits, what could I accomplish?
- What am I passionate about?
- What do I want to learn this year?
- If I don’t have any ideas, where can I go to get some ideas? Who can I talk to?
- What is a realistic and yet challenging goal?
- What do I need to have in place in order to achieve my goals?
Take the time and set at least a couple of goals for yourself this year. You will look back and know that 2017 is a year that you have accomplished much.
Recent studies have suggested that productivity is better tied to our energy level vs. time. Why? The more energy you have, the better your concentration and output will be. Just like time, energy is limited. The difference is that your energy level will vary within a day. You might work best early in the morning or later in the evening based on your energy levels. Therefore depending on what your energy peaks and valleys are, you can schedule work accordingly.
Due to the differences in our energy level, how we maximise productivty during the day will be different. For example, I do my most “mind/mental” work in the morning and by lunch time that’s pretty much it for my brains and so I schedule more physical activities in the afternoon and then it ramps up again in the evening when I am most creative. Therefore recognising my energy flow, I will schedule activities that align with it. It will make work much easier and more fun.
Think about what is yours. Reflect back on when you get your most productive work done. Are you an early bird or a night owl? Understanding where you are is important so that you will know when to schedule the hardest work vs. the more mundane activities.
There are 5 common energy fuels that will help you boast your energy when you need that extra lift.
- Passion: Where your passion is, that is where your focus is and that is where your energy will be. When you feel like you are losing interest, switch and do something that you enjoy. You will find that you will perk up and be recharge again. Think about what you are passionate about in the work that you are doing. Think beyond the work but the impact it will make. Reflect about what makes the work enjoyable. Once your passion meter has lighted up, you will find that you can go at it again.
- Purpose: work that aligns with our values will always give us the energy boast that we need when the going gets tough. Take a minute or so to remind yourself, why you are doing what you are doing.
- Support structure: We a need a community or support structure to help us, encourage us, guide us and sometimes to challenge us. If you need a good laugh, go find the friend that will make you laugh. If you need to get some good advice, go seek out a wise friend. If you need inspiration, go and talk to someone who will inspire you. Of course now you can just google it too. Personally I enjoy watching TED talks.
- Growth stimulators: Create a change or decide to learn something new. Learning something new is exciting and thus a great energy giver. Remember the time when you picked up a new hobby or learned something new, how did you feel? There are situations when we might need to “divert” our attention to something else in order for our minds to subconsciously figure out a solution. Learning something new or refocusing on something else and then getting back to the problem might give you a different perspective to solve a long-standing issue.
- Hope: The key to continuous flow of energy is when we have hope. Hope is a belief that something is going to happen usually for the better. Hope is an optimistic perspective of your progress and situation. When you are working on something tough, the hope that it will bring you the desired outcome will drive you to complete it.
Identify your energy fuels. Once you know what they are, use them when you need to. Besides caffeine, exercise is a great energy pick me up. Find yours and take advantage to fuel your energy level. We all need that inner boast of energy once or twice a day.
We all work because we need money. Money will give you all sorts of things. It will buy us a big house, cars, holidays, every gadget imaginable to mankind and every shoe, handbag and clothing our wardrobe can contain. Have you ever just sat down and thought about what money can’t buy? There are 3 essentials that money can’t buy:
- Time: Money can’t buy more time. You cannot buy more than 24 hours a day. Each of us whether rich or poor will have 24 hours a day. No more, no less. Time is therefore the most valuable commodity we each have. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. Wasting time is probably our biggest enemy.
- Fulfillment: Money can to a certain extend buy love, happiness, friends but it can’t buy true and long-lasting love, happiness and relationships. Fulfillment comes from meaningful relationships and living out our purpose that brings about significance in lives of those around you. It is about living out an authentic life shared with others.
- Life: The most valuable and no amount of money can buy. Yes, sadly but true. You can’t buy life. You might be able to extend it but you can’t buy life. Each of us have this one life. Whatever the lifespan, we need to make the most of it. To learn to appreciate and live out a life that is true to each of our calling. Life is precious. Don’t spend your life pursuing money but pursue a life of significance with money that you have.
Hence the question, what drives each of us to want more money? I dare say that it is the illusion of what money can buy. Money is perceived to be able to buy happiness, gives you power, security and comforts of life. Yes in many ways it does. It can buy you happiness, temporary in most situations but never buys you true joy. It can buy you security but not peace. It can afford to you the comforts of life but not a joyful life.
What is then the best approach towards money? I believe that the examples of Bill Gates and Warren Buffet and their philanthropic efforts is what we can learn from. It is about how best we can use the resources that we are given to give back. No matter the amount of money we have, every little cent that we invest wisely into lives will be significant in its impact over time.
What should you invest with money?
- Time: Strange considering that I had mentioned that we can’t buy time. What we can buy is a more productive use of our time. We can buy “time” by saving time. For example, you can buy 1 hour of cleaning services for $50, and in turn you will have 1 hour to spend with your family at the beach. Think about in what area of your life you could “buy time”.
- Experiences: Pay for learnings and growth. Each of us can only gain experiences when we live it out. Invest in learning opportunities. Invest in travel. Invest in enriching the lives of you and your family by spending time together. It is experiences of relationships, serving one another, doing life together that makes one’s life fulfilled.
- Giving back of your life: It is always better to give than to receive. And yet, you can’t really give until you have received. Anthony Robbins has shared about his life as a young child when he experienced the impact of someone giving to his family and in turn, now he gives back to countless more families. The comforts and blessings of the life that you have is meant to be shared with others. We are not meant to be hoarders but to be givers. It does not require all your money, it does require your time, your willingness to go out of your way and a heart to want to give.
What is your principle when it comes to money? How tightly are you holding on to your money? What can you use money to invest in? What is your long-term investment plan? Are you investing in life or money?