Life is full of changes. After all without change, there is no growth, no new lessons and no new experiences. Life would be a little too boring. Really? There are times when we just want change to stop. Just to be able to press the pause button so that we can think. Unfortunately that’s not the world that we live in. That is not how things are. What should we do when we have had enough with the changing environment? What if the changes that are taking place are not what we want? What if the changes that are taking place are just downright wrong or bad?
How do we gain perspective in order to put things in its right perspective? What is our anchor? What is your North Star?
It all boils down to getting back to basics. It involves these 5 areas:
1. Remember your values. Your values is your compass. It is your North Star. Remember what you believe in. Reflect and discover what your values are if you are unsure. Once you are clear on what your values are, then it is a basis for your next steps and decisions.
2. Rearrange your prioritises based on your values. Once you have identified your core values, reassess what you are doing now and ask yourself
- “Does it align with my values?”
- “What do I need to change or modify in order for what I do aligns with my values?” .
- “What do I need to stop doing?”
- “What do I need to start doing in order for me to live out my values?”
- “What should I now prioritise first?”
- “How should I prioritise?”
- “What structures do I need to put in place in order to achieve my new prioritises?”
3. Accept the consequences of reprioritising. Be prepared for the consequences of the changes that you will be making as a result of this exercise. It might not be easy to make certain transitions or decisions. Once you are certain, you will need to be prepared of the short term consequences. However, be focus on the long term gains that you are making as a result of the change. Always remember and keep your eye on the goals that you want to achieve.
4. Step out and take control. I love Nike’s slogan of Just DO It. It really is just do it. Plans are great on paper, and until it is executed, it means very little. Just step out and act. Just know that it is normal and you are not the only one who has ever felt fear, anxiety and uncertainty of the unknown. Remember, you are not alone and if you need help there are various forums where you can get mentorships, coaching and other forms of assistance.
5. Be thankful and grateful for the opportunity to remember. To help put things into perspective is to have a thankful and grateful approach to life. Each stepping stone, each fork on the road has a purpose. See the big picture through the eyes of gratefulness. It is far better than through the lens of negativity.
You are in control of your change. There are times that circumstances will force changes upon you. When and if change takes place, know that you are still in control of how you react and what you do with the opportunity.
We all get tired of change. However, it is also the perfect opportunity to take stock, reassess your values, reprioritise and take steps to control the outcomes which aligns to your values.
Lisa Lam : Coach | Trainer | Consultant 