Monthly Archives: November 2016

3 Tips to End Well before Moving On

There is a season for everything. There is a time to start something new. There is time to end a journey. Whether it’s a start or an end, it is all about moving on to the next adventure. For all of us, we will be faced with moments and decisions where it is either to end something or start afresh. Both needs to be addressed well.

Before we can move on to the next step, we need to end or conclude the current step well. To end well is to take stock and reflect as well as to be thankful and grateful for the opportunities and the people that traveled the path with you. What do you need to do to end well?

  1.  Be grateful and thankful. As you reflect, have a heart that is grateful for the opportunities, challenges, wins and lessons that you learned. Be thankful for the people that you had the privilege of knowing and working together. And tell them.
  2. Complete your role well. End a role or career on a high. End knowing that you have given the best and not leave a mess.
  3. Let it go. When you end a role or job, let it go. Don’t look back. Don’t keep asking your friends who are there about the issues or problems.  Let it go. You don’t want to start on a new path with any baggage from the past.

You will need to end well so that there is closure to one area. Good ending is the start of a good beginning. Why? There are 3 simple reasons:

  1.  No regrets. You will have no regrets and no “wish-things-could-be-different” thoughts. There is a good healthy sense of growth in your experience, development and achievements. The experiences, both good and bad are placed in the right perspective.  You are able to have a healthy perspective of what you have encountered and overcame as well as what you have accomplished.
  2. Peace. You will have peace in knowing that you did your best and whatever achievements and failures are part of the learning and growing experience.       Entering into a new stage of your life is much easier when you have a sense of peace going into it. You are starting on the right foot.
  3. Optimism. You will have a great positive outlook for your next move. You will start with a great sense of optimism as you will not be carrying any unnecessary baggage as you embark on your new move.  When the new adventure starts with an optimistic view, it will help to overcome the initial anxiety and fear that naturally comes with starting something new. There is something hopeful and exciting that optimism brings along.

What could you do to end well? Ask yourself:

  • What do I need to do to end well?
  • What critical areas do I need to complete?
  • What am I grateful for?
  • Who am I thankful for?
  • What do I need to let go off?
  • What challenges or issues do I need to move past?
  • What do I need to put to rest?
  • What excitement does this next move have in store for me?
  • What can I contribute to in this new journey?
  • What impact can I make?

As the year is coming to a close, we all need to end the year well and the start the new year. Start by thinking what you can do to end it well in order for you to start the new year amazingly.

 

 

3 Ways to act on your procrastination

I have a confession.  I am a procrastinator.  More specifically a selective procrastinator.  Selective because I choose what to procrastinate on.  On the flip side, I am a selectively proactive.  I decide and choose what I want to be proactive about.  I know that I am not alone in this category.  A recent deadline got me thinking, what factors contribute to the procrastination?  Could it be the following:

  • I am not interested or passionate about the topic or task to begin with.
  • It is not important to me.
  • It is not a priority for me.
  • Over time, after ignoring it, I have just forgotten.

Whatever the reason, procrastination does not solve the problem.  In fact it could make it worse.  So learning from my most recent experience, I have come to conclude that procrastination will:

  • not complete the task at hand.
  • not make the problem go away.  If anything, it might make it bigger.
  • not mean that other people have forgotten what you need to do.
  • give you unnecessary anxiety and stress when you realise that you can no longer procrastinate.
  • cost you something.

Therefore, in order to avoid all those unpleasant situations above, here are my top 3 sure-fire way to force yourself to act:

  1. Find someone to remind you.  In fact constantly remind you.  Give that person the permission to be your voice of action.  Let that person be the “fly”.  Buzzing around you until it is done.
  2. Deadline.  There is a reason why the word is DEADline.  It has to be a reasonable deadline else you will procrastinate.  Don’t give yourself any room to make excuses.
  3. Reward Yourself.  I personally find that the best motivator.  Reward yourself when you get the task done.  Make the reward more compelling than the task at hand.  You could even “pay” yourself for the work completed.

If all those still does not work, just pay someone to do it.  Now if paying someone else to do it is out of the question or you can’t afford it, then just get it done yourself!  Which ever path you take, it will cost you something.  The question is which price are you willing to pay.