Feeling Guilty for Not being Busy?

“I am too busy.”  “I have so much to do so little time.”  “I am always running around and not sure what I have done or accomplished.”  There are a many more phrases that I hear all the time.  Most of the time it’s filled with much confusion and a tinge of regret.  The tinge of regret usually stems from a sense that all the activities that we are busy doing does not amount to much or is not aligned with our life goals.  Even if we are not clear on what our life purpose is, each of us know when something is not sitting right deep inside.

How many of us wish that we can stop running around like little hamsters or mice on the wheel?  The faster we run, the faster the wheel goes and its endless.  There is seemingly nothing we can do to get off it, at least without being flung into some direction from all that momentum.  To imagine some breathing room is like paradise.  However, for those who enjoy the sound of “I am very busy.” or just love the adrenalin rush of being running about, could it be because you are driven by a feeling of being guilty if you were now NOT busy?

Have you defined your life by how busy you are or can be?  What if you took stock of your life and stripped off “busy-ness”, what would your life look like now?  What priorities would you put in place instead?  Do you have things that you could now do that you might enjoy?  Would you spend more time with the people that you love and enjoy spending time with?

Each of us have 24 hours in a day.  How we spend it is entirely up to each of us.  What we fill our time with should be in our control.  Is that true?  What if, it is in your control to NOT be busy but be fulfilled?  What if you could get off the wheel?  How would you get off?

I would suggest the following:

1.  Don’t feel bad or guilty for not being as busy as the people around you.  Don’t compare.  Don’t judge.  Be prepared to stand your ground and make the decisions that are right for you.  Once we start to compare and think that there is something wrong with not having as much to do as the next person, we are getting back on the wheel again.

2.  Know what’s important to you.  Know your priorities and goals.  Focus on them and focus your activities to achieve it.  Your life journey is unique to you and you have a part to play in this world.  Be true to live the life that you are born to.  Don’t settle for someone else’s expectation of you as it will never fully satisfy you.

3.  Take stock and be self critical.  Like spring cleaning to declutter and to detoxify, we need to stop and take stock.  Check to see if the activities that we are doing align with our values and goals.  Some times we need to let go of some activities so that we can pursue something else.  Each session brings about new experiences and growth.  To embrace something new, there is a need to let go of the old.

I decided some time back that I was going to live my life differently.  This was due to an experience many years ago when I thought that I was going to die in an explosion that took the lives of 2 my colleagues.  I felt that with this new lease of life that God has given me, it must amount to something more than just the rat race.  I learned to prioritize, focus and stay the course.  I wanted to impact positively those around me, I wanted to inspire growth in others.  As a result, I have been focus on ensuring that I am not “busy” with activities that do not bring about impact.  Getting off the wheel was hard but well worth it.

No time like the present to think about it.

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