It’s not fair or It’s just not fair. Have we not thought that and even said it? Have we not thought that about everyone who has something that we don’t? Have we not wondered why life isn’t fair? Some will say that Life is Not Fair and in many ways its true. However, is that really true? Is that perspective of fairness even fair?
I have come across many times when I have thought, that’s not fair. How could so and so be promoted? How could I not have been selected for an award and so on? From my perspective, it’s just not fair. However, there are many aspects to perspective and therefore just to judge someone on a scale that is ever evolving and different person to person is rifled with faults.
What do you do when you feel that “it’s not fair”? How do you get of the negative perspective? Here are a few quick tips:
1. Life is only fair through your eyes. Therefore through the eyes of everyone, it is fair, just not to someone else. Once you accept that perspective, then the means by which we compare or judge others will need to be released. What are you happy with? What drives you? What are you passionate about? What are your strengths? What are you good at? Focus on those because you are most probably good at it.
2. Don’t compare or judge others. You are accountable for you, your actions and your thoughts. Others are accountable for their actions and thoughts. There is no “right” or “wrong” in most cases with the exception of against the law type situation. The better question is whether the exercise was useful or not. Useful to learn from or improve upon or not. The reality is I can’t play golf like Lydia Ko even though I feel that its unfair how someone so young could have all that talent. What I don’t see is just how much hard work she puts into it and the sacrifices that she would have made to be successful. Therefore, comparison of this nature is not helpful.
3. “Life is Not Fair” is in the eyes of the beholder. Taking on a glass half full or empty perspective. If we only see the half empty perspective then probably your view of situations will be “Life is Not Fair”. But don’t become a victim because there are any aspects of your life that I am sure brings a smile to your face. What brings a smile to your face? What are you most proud of? What stories would you tell your children and grandchildren?
4. This is your one life – Live it Up. We only live once and we can choose to live it up or down. I am sure that we have all read many articles and books about people and their regrets, let’s not be one of them. Let’s choose to live our your passion and dreams. Choose to make the most of the time you have with your family, friends and how you spend your time.
Life is fair because all of us only have ONE.
Lisa Lam : Coach | Trainer | Consultant 